In life we try to succeed in many areas – career, marriage, family, but what is most often overlooked is the simple practice of loving ourselves. Wait! Before you shoot self love down as a selfish practice drowning in narcissism, truth be told, it is probably the most selfless thing you can do – both for yourself and for others.
Honoring the practice of loving yourself is truly the greatest love of all. When we give the love to ourselves that we so freely give others, we are showing the world our value, our worthiness, and how we deserve to be loved. No one can love you the way you love yourself. You are unique and brave, vulnerable and authentic. When you love yourself you are detaching yourself from the limiting beliefs that you are “not good enough” and the dangerous effects of comparing yourself to others. Loving yourself is like a mirror and how kind and loving you are to yourself is a direct reflection of the love you will attract.
While women tend to give most of their loving attention outwards to loved ones and friends, we must turn the attention inward to ourselves equally. The longest love affair you will ever have is with yourself – it’s lifelong. Start practicing the art of loving yourself today!
Simple Ways to Say I Love You – To You
- Each morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself “I Love You.” This practice might seem strange at first, but coming in direct eye contact with yourself is a powerful way to start each day, giving yourself the confidence and loving support you need to make your day amazing! And it all comes from you! There is no need to loathe in high expectations, waiting for someone else to affirm how beautifully unique and lovely you are. You are enough.
- Make a Love Statement! Much like the above, a Love Statement is a short testimony to yourself of words you never heard when you were younger, but needed. For instance, if you struggle with worthiness, which is common among women, maybe you needed to hear “You are worthy, You are good enough.” Make this your love statement now. Choose words and sentences that make you feel at ease knowing that someone (YOU) is giving the love you needed all along. Repeat these to yourself often to remind yourself and your younger self that the love is here and it’s not going anywhere.
- Move your Body! Staying connected in breath, mind, and body and being fully present in the moment allows you to reap the full benefits living and loving in the now. Living with regret from the past or in worry of the future can only create invisible anxieties that hold no truth. The truth is here and now. Take a yoga class and get centered. Enjoy hiking in the outdoors and giving yourself time in nature. Take a zumba class or spin class and move your feet to the beat – music does wonders for the soul. If you’d rather stay still, spend some time in quiet reflection or mediation, allowing your breath to lead – always keeping the mind in the present moment.
- Treat Yourself! You are the most important person in your life and you should treat yourself as such. Take yourself out on a date – a nice dinner, the movies, are things you can do solo, believe it or not. Give yourself a day at the spa, a manicure/pedicure, an adventurous road trip or jet-setting vacation across the world – these are all things to do for yourself, by yourself, to feel empowered by a true authentic love that is unique to you.
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